that thing called LOVE!

At dahil wala na naman akOng maikwento, naghanap na lang ako ng mga forwarded messages sa umaapaw na inbox ng yahoomail ko :) i found this e-mail from my bessie, TNA. i sure hope that i'll have this positive outlook about L-O-V-E in the near future. hahaha bitter ba itO? hindi naman mashadu! :) so mga peeps?! read on...

There was a time in my life when i became afraid to fall inlove. Because every time i fell in love,I got hurt. I thought maybe that's why it's called falling in love. I would give my all,loving deeply & wholeheartedly. It would be a truly emotional & euphoric experience. I would be dreaming about the object of my affection day & night, imagining good times together, thinking of what i can do or buy for him to show how much i care. I would feel light, energized & excited, blooming w/ the joy i feel inside.

Then somehow, something would go wrong & my whole world crashes. Disappointment. Resentment. Anger. Pain. Why? Can we not love without feeling pain? Is it really a price to pay for all the happiness we feel when we're in love? It was only after many years of soul searching & reading inspirational writings that i realized that we can love without getting hurt. Only recently did i understand what unconditional love is all about. Love is one is one of the most powerful forces in the universe. It is the fire that burns inside,the essence of being. It is a precious gift that defines our purpose in life. If we keep in mind that we can indeed preserve it's true meaning, we can love to the fullest & betruly happy. Accept the fact that the other people express their love differently. How do you express love? You say "I love you three times a day." You kiss & embrace as often as you can. You never forget anniversaries. You always prepare his favorite dishes. How does he express love? He rarely say "I love you." He seldom kisses you. He forgets your birthday & he doesn't know how to cook. But he works overtime, walks the dog, takes out the garbage, takes you to the movies & calls you "Honey." He just shows it differently.

If you can accept that, then you will have a healthier perspective of your relationship. Derive happiness from giving love. When you love, do it because you want to. Just give it. And cherish the satisfaction in having given something of youself. It's like giving a gift whether it's appreciated or not, find joy in simple giving.

Love without expecting anything in return. Pain comes in when you demand something in return for the love you give. You're setting yourself up for disappoinment. Love cannot always be reciprocal. Love between two people can never be of the same intensity at the same time & place. No matter how much your partner loves you, he'll never fill all your needs all the time. And you'll be waiting in misery forever, if you believe you should love only when you're sure to receive equal love in return. Love now. The past is gone & the future is just a dream. All of yesterday's aches & pains, as well as the loves & laughters, are mere memories. Let them go. Fantasies & worries are for a future that may never come. Don't dwell on them. Live now. Give love now. Do it & enjoy it now.

Throw away those destructive habits. When you insist upon yourself that you always have to be in control, that you always have to be right, that others must always please you, you put yourself in a very tight spot. Loving relationships are flexible. Dynamic & evolving. Leave room now for interaction. Allow for new behavior & learning experiences. When we welcome these in our lives we open ourselves to sharing more love & affection & less frustration & pain. Yes, you'll say unconditional love is easier said than done. Especially when we've always believed that love is give & take. But believe that love is simply giving. And you'll be surprised that a lot of it, even more, actually comes back to you.

Love is a gift. If you're given this gift, try to appreciate it & share it with others. If you haven't received it yet, don't be in a hurry to love somebody...because GOD is still wrapping that special gift for you.

***dear GOD,

ang tagal naman po ng gift ko... hihihi joke lang po, peace tau! :)

ang iyong anak,

tOwnie***